Taking a break from a relationship for mental health
Being in a relationship can be a real rollercoaster. Sometimes it is warm and giving, other times it can be a little bit frustrating.
Having to commit in a relationship is a responsibility that makes you set aside your Ego and do things to make someone happy. But does that mean you should stop making yourself happy?
Most of the relationships don’t go as planned just because one of two does not have anything to give to the other. In that case you are obligated to nurture your needs, before you meet someone else’s needs.
A survey shows that almost 70% of the couples in Europe are not happy with the person they’re with. That only shows how beer pressure drives our social and personal life.
What kind of ship is the relationship?
Waking up in the morning and seeing the person you fell for lying next to you is one of the best things about being in a relationship. You have the same interests, you are each other’s best friends, you like each other’s flaws and personalities. Good for you.
In a parallel universe, you are tired of seeing this person every single morning laying next to you. You constantly fight, you’re passive aggressively talking back to each other and don’t communicate about pretty much anything. It sucks.
You are most probably going to go through both scenarios as the time goes by. Now you’re thinking, all my friends are in happy relationships, some are even married, some already have kids. What am I doing?
Not thinking about yourself
is what you’re doing, and you’re doing a heck of a job.
Being single may seem lonely and often a bit depressing. Chin up, It’s not that bad.
Having time to yourself can help you in so many ways, that It is a must, especially If you feel you don’t have anything to give in a relationship.
Face it, you want to meet the social standards that have you thinking It’s a necessity to have a partner. Well, It’s not and you should not feel pressured.
The real commitment comes from inside you and you are the engine that drives it. To be with another means to be, at least to some point, happy with yourself. You can’t do that until you’ve been single for a while.
Bonding with yourself
is one of the healthiest things you can do. Seriously, think about it.
How long has it been since you did something for yourself? Managing your time to be with yourself and only that.
Prepare a meal just for you, go on a vacation by yourself, buy something that you’ve been wanting and treat yourself to a thing that you normally wouldn’t do.
Rent a car and drive anywhere, do something spontaneous, go to a bar with your friends and don’t think about the consequences. Live the life you want to live and then find someone to live it with.
All your friends that are getting married and having children are lucky to have made this decision, but remember – It’s not a race. There is no right time to meet someone, It just happens. And believe me, It’s going to happen.
Best be prepared for the person you would want to marry by starting with having a relationship with yourself. At first It is going to be scary and lonely, but after a while It seems so natural and rewarding.
Society is too demanding on your personal time and Ego. Find the time to preserve and cherish yourself. Having someone beside you is great, but what about having yourself to yourself.