by admin | Jan 7, 2022 | Mind
Mood Swings | Part 2 – Managing Your Emotions
Gaining Control Over The Automatic
In part one of this article series, you learned more about mood swings, their nature, and main causes.
With all that information in mind, you are now one step closer to resolving any emotional issues you may hold deep within.
Why you may ask?
- Well, because to resolve a certain problem completely, you don’t need ‘just a solution’.
- You need an understanding of the core of this problem and why it arose in the first place.
- As a matter of fact, this deep understanding can also lead to logical conclusions that highlight the exact path towards the resolution of the problem at hand.
- Nevertheless, having concrete cues as to the methods you can use to manage mood swings and your emotional states, as a whole, can also massively help!
- In this second part of the article series, we’ll cover just that.
And so, are you ready? Let’s start!
Maintaining A Steady Mind
If you’ve read some previous materials on our blog, you have probably seen us mention that the modern-day lifestyle and social dynamics can easily kick your mind off-balance.
In a world like this, it is crucial to establish the skills necessary to keep your mind steady, in order for you to be able to guide it to whatever path you are looking to take.
Based on experience, we would say that this has 3 main aspects:
- Stress management
- Lifestyle choices
- Different perspectives
Let’s start with the most important one – Stress management!
Stress Management
- Alright, if the most common culprit for mood swings is stress, then it makes sense for the easiest fix to be stress management.
- Depending on the kind of stress you are experiencing, you may need different types of solutions.
- For instance, if you are under extreme momentary discomfort, you can try different breathing techniques.
- However, yoga may be a better idea if you are dealing with stress that has accumulated through time.
- Whether you find it peaceful to be alone or with people, managing stress is absolutely possible and will ease the shifts in your mood.
- And yes, yoga and other exercises can help, but stress management is done on a level of perception at the deepest level.
- So, whenever you experience a stressful situation, try to stay aware of your reaction to it and start questioning it.
- Because reactions involve a great level of emotional output and are automatic, we usually follow their sequence.
- But suppose you use your most powerful tool. In that case, awareness and consciousness.
- And you use that to question the automatic behaviors, well then, your emotional reactions will change over time, thus leading to less prominent mood swings.
- This is base 1. From then on, you have to get back to your natural human patterns, and your emotional transformation will be complete!
- Let’s have a look at the lifestyle choices you can abide by to resolve mood swings!
Lifestyle Choices
As we mentioned, your lifestyle choices massively impact the internal chemistry your body is running on.
Bad chemistry means poor emotions and poor emotions mean more frequent mood swings.
Think of it this way – Your body was designed to work in a certain way (that we call ‘natural’) and if you get further from that (which the modern lifestyle pushes us towards), well, you know what happens.
So let’s have a look.
You’ve Got To Move It Move It
Ah, yes, exercise.
- When you are consistently active, the machine your body is starts working in the best way it can because it has the best incentive it needs.
- Not only that but exercise also releases endorphins that are responsible for regulating stress and overall mood.
- By teaching your body to be consistent, your mind will likely follow and naturally start fighting rapid shifts in mood.
- Even just a 30-minute workout once every two days will positively affect your emotional state.
- Oh, and not to mention, you will start looking better as a side effect.
Think of it this way – The body was DESIGNED to move! Just look at your complex musculature – It’s begging for you to get up and move so that the body can fulfill its true potential.
So get up. Sprint. Climb. Jump, crawl and swim – Find a way to move that you love, and stick to it!
Wake Up, Sleepy Eyes!
Getting the amount of sleep you need with the quality you need is synonymous with feeling like the normal you.
We have all had sleepless nights or experienced difficulties when trying to do something taxing early in the morning, and we all know how that made us feel.
Sleeping well is vital for the way you perceive the world and therefore what emotion it incites in you.
This is why people that have chronic problems with sleep often have mood swings.
So try this:
- Go to bed at the same time
- Avoid eating heavy meals right before bed
- Avoid screentime in the last 1-2 hours before bed
- Create a bed routine
Eat Like Your Ancestors
- If you’re not getting all the nourishment you need, you may experience negative changes in your mood.
- This is why some people are cranky in the morning – lower blood sugar and caffeine withdrawal (if they drink coffee daily) can make a person easily irritable.
- Malnourishment works in the same way but on a deeper level – food is the body’s fuel, and you can’t expect it to work properly if it doesn’t receive what it needs.
- This is also why some digestive disorders are associated with mood swings (pssst, it’s all in the gut!)
- Certainly, though, eating well nowadays is something very hard to do, mainly because we are constantly bombarded with ultra-processed foods.
- Nevertheless, that doesn’t mean you can’t find food close to the natural quality that our hunter-gatherer ancestors had.
Here are 7 of our best-rated foods everyone should focus on:
- Grass-Fed beef
- Eggs From Pasture-Raised Chicken
- Wild-Caught Salmon & Other Seafood
- Dairy Products From Pasture-Raised Animals
- Root crops (carrots, potatoes, beetroot, etc.)
- Fruits & vegetables
- Nuts
Besides focusing on those, one should also avoid highly processed foods and if consumed, they must not represent more than 10-15% of an individual’s total daily food intake.
Just Ask Someone!
If you are worried that your mood swings are a sign of something deeper or just have trouble dealing with them easily, you should seek the advice of a therapist.
There, you will find the answers to all your questions and start working on a plan to keep your emotions in check.
Different types of therapy offer different solutions, and you will undoubtedly find one that suits your needs.
One of our top recommendations, though, is Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), because this strongly relates to one’s perception about things, and this is precisely where the change is made!
Final Thoughts
Mood swings are a common problem for many people, especially in today’s fast-paced society.
This is exactly why you can find a lot of information about them and advice on dealing with the challenges they pose.
Although sometimes such seemingly random shifts in your emotions may seem scary or make you feel powerless, it’s crucial to remember that there is nothing you won’t learn to handle with time.
Start with small changes to your daily life and see where they take you and how they make you feel, and always know that you can get help the moment you feel you want to.
Stay balanced!
by admin | Jan 7, 2022 | Mind
Mood Swings | Part 1 – Definition & Causes
Understanding The Dynamic Nature Of Your Emotions
Thanks to experiments and proven theories, we now know that the entire universe is constantly searching for balance, trying its best to avoid extremities at all costs.
Similar to the pendulum of a clock, we, like the universe, constantly search for the golden middle.
- We do this both consciously and subconsciously in pretty much every aspect of our lives – work and rest, spending time with friends and alone, working out and relaxing.
- We do most of the basic human activities with the idea of establishing a balance between them.
- This is why, when your emotions are stronger than normal, it can feel challenging to go about your day as you usually would.
- Although mood swings are common, we aren’t always sure why they happen and how to control them exactly.
- Sometimes the intensity of our current emotions doesn’t have an explanation, and we find ourselves questioning everything that surrounds us.
- This is not only exhausting but can sometimes have a more lasting negative effect on us, our relationships, and the overall quality of our lives.
- For those and many more reasons, we’ve decided to shed some light on how to understand your feelings better and take the first baby steps towards establishing control over them.
What Do Psychologists Say?
Certainly, whenever we have an acute change in the state of an individual, there will be a bunch of psychologists trying to explain it.
So here comes the question-
What Are Mood Swings, Exactly?
Psychologists identify mood swings as great and sudden changes in the current emotional state of an individual.
When you quickly go from feeling happy and upbeat to being easily irritated and blue, you are likely experiencing precisely this phenomenon known as a “mood swing.”
Sometimes mood swings are a part of an underlying condition, and sometimes they are the side effects of the many challenges we deal with that are a normal part of life.
Why Do They Happen?
The most common reason for mood swings is… You guessed it – Stress!
Regardless of whether it’s sudden and extreme or accumulated over time and seemingly negligible, stress is the most common cause for rapid changes in our emotions. When we are under pressure, we can’t focus on keeping everything in check, and we sometimes neglect our feelings, resulting in them spiraling out of control.
This is precisely why we sometimes end up experiencing random shifts in how we feel towards certain people, events, and topics. Significant life changes are also widely known to cause shifts in mood. Whether this process happens subconsciously or not, we often respond more emotionally to things when something big is currently happening in our lives.
For example, getting married, finding a new job, becoming a parent, moving to a different city – all these things have a resounding effect on our temper and perception.
This phenomenon makes sense in the world when you think about all the emotional thoughts we have while experiencing such events and all the pressure and excitement they often bring us.
Moodswings As A Symptom
One of the lesser-known things is that mood swings are also a part of almost all mental illnesses – depression, bipolar, and borderline personality disorders are just to name a few in which rapid changes of mood are extremely common.
This information should be considered by the patient and the doctor treating these conditions because it may change the final way of dealing with the problem.
Mood swings can also accompany Alzheimer’s, strokes, and other conditions that affect the brain.
Hormone changes are also a common cause of mood swings.
For women, the hormone estrogen often has this effect which is dispensed during the menstrual cycle and pregnancy, and for men, that can usually be caused by testosterone and other major hormones that also undergo a cycle.
Regardless of whether you are undergoing hormone treatment or just the body’s natural response to something, a hormonal imbalance in your body can often make you feel emotions more intensely.
Medication As A Cause
A different reason for experiencing these fluctuations is if you are using certain medications or are in the process of changing your prescription.
For example, mental health medicine often has this side effect, especially if you take it for the first time or change your usual routine.
This is because it is designed to work with the part of your brain which deals with emotions, and there is a period of adaptation in which the brain gets used to the change.
However, other types of medications can be a reason for mood swings, and you should ask your physician if you are experiencing this and believe it’s because of your prescription.
How Common Are Mood Swings?
- Most people experience mood swings at least a few times a year.
- This is completely natural because they are often subconscious responses to things that happen to us, some of which are beyond our control.
- We are incredibly emotional beings, and as such it’s impossible to expect this part of us will always be under our absolute control.
- As a matter of fact, trying to keep everything under strict management is often why we end up having mood swings in the first place.
- With that being said, if you are experiencing them a lot more often and they hinder your life in any way, you should ask for the advice of a professional as it may be a symptom of an underlying condition.
- Nevertheless, before doing that, you can also consider having a read over our second article of this series, where we go in-depth on the steps you can take towards successful emotional management.
Swing by to part two by clicking HERE
by admin | Jan 7, 2022 | Mind
Learning To Take Your Own Feelings Into Account
The Effects Of Social Media And How To Hear Your Own Voice In A Sea Of Others
There’s a lot to be said about human emotion because, quite frankly, it is very complicated.
Many scientists believe that some of the fundamental differences we as a species have are because we feel certain emotions in specific ways.
The way we understand and experience love, anger, care, disappointment, or hope is crucial in formulating how we act in many situations and can change our futures in the blink of an eye.
This is why genuinely understanding our emotions is so important – by figuring out how different situations make us feel and where the roots of those feelings lie, we can understand how they govern us and potentially what we would like to change.
Social Media And Society’s Opinion
We live in a time where feelings are simultaneously being broadcasted and hidden which may sound like a paradox but is, in fact, very true!
Let’s focus on social media – the center of attention for a big part of modern society.
At its core, this is a virtual space explicitly made so that people can share exactly how they feel in each moment.
Videos, photos, posts, tweets, comments, reactions – all of these are essentially forms of self-expression that allow us to convey our innermost desires, fears, opinions, and hopes.
A digital, eternal library of our human experience where everything is said, shared and stored.
This has its obvious positive sides – freedom of speech for one, is actively supported, which hasn’t always been the case.
Creativity is encouraged and given its due credit, thus broadening all sorts of cultural knowledge and allowing all kinds of talents to be noticed and appreciated despite where they come from and what they are.
Forming an opinion and standing by it has also never been easier, which is tremendously beneficial because it focuses the individual’s attention on their personal choices and the reasons behind them.
These things are all connected with emotions and have all had an impact due to the exponential growth of social media.
The Paradox
Now, this is where the paradox mentioned above comes into play.
For one, by having all of this information just a few clicks away, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed or even discouraged to share your thoughts and ideas – after all, there’s always going to be someone better than you.
Historically speaking, there hasn’t been a time in which the previous statement was not true.
However, today we can find and keep our focus on each person who is superior in our eyes.
Sure the people who lived before the golden age of the internet also understood that they probably weren’t the absolute best in their respective fields, but it’s a different thing to realize this in theory and actually to see those people and their achievements every day.
This often takes a toll on our self-esteem and makes us disregard our feelings and thoughts.
The Aspects Of Social Media
With the above-said in mind, we would like to make another important mention here – just because you see it, doesn’t mean it’s the whole story!
Social media posts tend to be highly positive – unrealistically so.
It’s natural for the creator only to want to share their finished product or their final thoughts, without mentioning all the hardship that came before that.
However, the viewer often forgets that this hardship was the central part of the narrative.
By seeing everyone else’s lives through rose-colored glasses (or filters), we often end up judging ourselves because our worlds have different nuances and colors.
This can bring us to the conclusion that we shouldn’t take our own emotions or even ourselves as a whole into account, which is precisely why social media is a double-edged sword.
In a sense, social media is a highlight of people’s lives – Not the entire story.
Listening To Your Own Feelings
So how do we battle this? Social media is far from the only perpetrator of lowering self-esteem, but it is also a great example of one because most of us use it daily.
Regardless of if you’re talking about a bully you had in your class or some stranger’s opinion on the internet, you probably can’t do much to change the negativity that is being thrown your way, and you shouldn’t have to.
Negativity will always be a part of our lives the same way positivity will always fight it back.
Instead of changing the outside factors (a task which can not only be exhausting but is sometimes plain impossible), what you can do is focus on what’s under your control – your own perception.
By listening and understanding your emotions, you become the master of how those negative people or things affect you.
An excellent first step is to ask yourself questions – as much as you can and as often as possible.
Get to know yourself more, understand why you like what you like, how different things make you feel when you are happy, what makes you sad, what you want to hear when you’re in a bad place, your hopes, and dreams, etc.
For instance, the questions you can ask someone you want to be friends with are almost identical to the ones you can ask yourself and you should focus on your answers just as much as you would if it were a different person giving them.
What this process of asking and answering your questions does, is it switches your focus from the outside world to your inner reality.
With this shift, you start understanding why your feelings and thoughts have just as much value as everyone else’s and why your opinion is just as important.
After that, it’s much easier for you to share the emotions and ideas you have with the world.
You see, when you truly understand something – its origins, its current form, and its future effects, you are more confident when you are facing it as well as when you have to explain it to someone else.
The same way you find explaining simple things to kids easier than untangling complicated theories when you have all the answers using straightforward language, it’s much more comprehensible both for you and for your audience.
In addition, this newfound conviction that comes with knowledge allows you to be more open and truthful and therefore attract the proper response.
From that point on, everything is pretty much smooth sailing.
Take-Home Message
This first step to learning to take your own feelings into account is hard and takes some getting used to.
Nevertheless, it is vital in bettering our opinion of ourselves and the importance we give it.
By learning to take your emotions into account, you will undoubtedly find out new things about yourself, how to pay attention to them, and why you couldn’t see them before.
This form of self-realization and the change that comes with it is something that everyone should experience because it brings you closer to the person you ultimately want to be – a person who truly understands themselves and is happier for it.
by admin | Jan 7, 2022 | Fitness, Mind
How to be organized at home
Little Things That Help You Stay On Top Of Your Game
We’ve all had those days when our organizational skills seem to have just wandered off somewhere.
It’s like they have decided to take a holiday, leaving us with just pieces of plans, which often makes us feel powerless.
These days are completely normal and happen to everyone from time to time.
After all, we can’t always be perfect… Right?
However, if you have more trouble organizing your day-to-day life than you would like to, it may start hindering your overall experience and feelings.
If you’re having trouble staying organized, keep reading as we provide valuable tips and tricks on becoming more structured, organized, and orderly in your day-to-day tasks!
Without further ado, let’s jump right into the topic with the first and most important tip!
#1 Give Yourself The Best
First things first – before you start working on the parts of yourself you want to improve, you have to make sure that you’re covering all of your basic needs and desires.
Changing habits or making new ones is always tricky, and it can turn out to be almost impossible if you aren’t providing your body with what it needs in the first place.
Things like getting enough sleep, eating healthy, and sustaining a proper balance between work and social life may seem like they don’t have a lot in common with improving your organizational skills, but that’s not true.
If you have all of your basic needs covered you will be able to focus on your more complicated aspirations.
This is the only way to ensure that you will have the energy you need to improve and actually start working.
Start from yourself.
#2 Write Everything Down
- Next up, we suggest you keep a journal where you write down your responsibilities, ideas, and even tasks you’ve completed
- Having everything in one place makes it easier for you to keep track of your next move.
- You can do this digitally or on paper. Both have their merits. A digital itinerary means that you can easily alter, add or remove events and their specifics.
- However, if you have a more classical approach, writing everything down may be the better option for you.
- It’s worth noting here that writing everything down pen on paper does wonders for the brain.
- If you have done it, you know that it brings a sense of peacefulness when you see your plans written down in your own handwriting.
- Even more so, some people find the action of writing itself incredibly therapeutic.
- Regardless of which of the options you choose to go for, the core benefits of keeping a journal are the same – Everything is in one place, which makes forgetting something improbable, and allows you to structure your days more effortlessly.
#3 Reward Time
Another idea is to implement some sort of reward system for yourself. Things are best learned through positive reinforcement, so try and think of little ways to make yourself feel good when you manage to keep to your schedule. For instance, every time you organize a part of your day or stick to a premade plan, you give yourself a small gift – it can be anything from enjoying a piece of chocolate to watching an episode of your favorite show.
Another option, if there’s something you’ve wanted to do for a long time, is to give yourself a point after each achievement – gather enough points, and you receive the reward. It can be something like purchasing a new phone or traveling somewhere for a few days – pretty much any big thing you know you’d enjoy but also want to feel like you’ve earned it.
Through this method, you can start teaching your mind that organization is a positive instead of a tedious concept and that if you follow your own rules and are consistent about them, you can achieve whatever you want to.
#4 Share With Loved Ones
- Finally, you can start sharing your adventures with friends and family.
- After you’re sure that you’ve made a positive change and are more organized, you can start sharing your newly learned skills with other people.
- Make some plans together or maybe even be the one responsible for organizing a bunch of your friends.
- Most things are more fun if you involve the ones you love, and by being organized, you can do so with ease.
- Taking the initiative and planning something for you and the people you’re close to is a surefire way to show your appreciation for them and maybe even surprise them with a plan for something you both have been dying to do.
- As a bonus, organizing something like this yourself assures you that your hard work was worth it, making you even more confident in the future.
Final Thoughts
- Organizational skills are essential regardless of what your job and social life are.
- Being able to rely solely on yourself for your plans gives you freedom as nothing else does.
- Being a good organizer also boosts your self-esteem.
- Not to mention, the opinion others have of you will surely benefit from this change, too!
- Maybe the best part of having good organizational skills is that you will be able to fill your days to the brim with things you love to do.
So… Start. Now!
by admin | Jan 7, 2022 | Health, Mind
Connecting With Different Types Of Art
What Should You Try Next And Why It’s Important To Keep Exploring
How does art connect us
Art has been a part of our lives for millennia. The first artwork ever made was of outlines of hands in 290 000 BCE in Indonesia (at least from what we know and have found thus far!)
- That shows how innate it is for us to use our imagination and create something.
- Different types of art later started developing alongside our intelligence and technology.
- These included music, theatre, paintings, books, all the way to movies and games in recent decades.
- But how can you connect with art, yourself and what impact can this have on your life?Let’s find out!
The Different Types Of Art
- Art is a word that evokes many different ideas, images and emotions. It can be defined as the expression of human creative skill in visual form.
- Art may take the form of a painting, drawing, sculpture or other media such as a film, for example.
- There are many different types of art to explore and enjoy- from abstract to figurative work, from modern to traditional, from highbrow to lowbrow.
- The following paragraphs will introduce you to the different types of art that represent various artistic mediums and genres.
- And so are you ready to find the type of art that most resonates with YOUR soul?
Let’s go!
Visual Art
This first type of art refers to many different visual forms of art, ranging from paintings to sculptures, but not only.
- You can find some unbelievable ideas being brought to life through this medium.
- Go to big and small exhibitions, attend gallery openings, and search for small coffee shops that have a defined look because of the art hanging on the walls.
- It’s a vast area of exploration that offers some amazing stuff, both for your eyes and the soul!
- Also, try to discover your local artists and support their work. It makes you a part of a community filled to the brim with exciting people!
- Finally, if you want, try creating something yourself – it’s one of the easiest ways to rest and get in touch with yourself.
- Because after all, art is not just something to enjoy with your senses, but a medium to self-expression, too.
Music
- Oh, where would the world be without music, eh?
- We all have a specific music taste, and getting to hear your favorite artists live is an experience like no other.
- With that in mind, try to go to world festivals, be a part of the thousands of people that attended the concert of their lifetime, but also, don’t forget to cherish your local scene, too!
- Many of the artists you love wouldn’t be who they are if they didn’t have the support from their local fans.
- You can find some great musicians that are more underground and know that by supporting them, you helped them rise up.
- If you really have a passion for music, try playing an instrument as well – even if you don’t become a musician yourself, playing something for the first time is still a pleasant experience.
Theatre
- This is one of the most ancient arts, and for a good reason. Many actors in movies started in theatre, and they’re still a part of some plays because they love it so much.
- Plays both in your language and by other authors, as well as classics have their merit.
- It’s also enjoyable to go to the plays of university students because they have a new approach to most characters and an immense passion for what they’re doing.
- You’ll encounter some stories that cannot be read or seen in a different medium, which adds uniqueness to the experience itself.
- You can even do some acting exercises if you want, because most of them are simple but very fun.
Books
- Reading is a timeless hobby and one that has a lot of benefits. You can start small by reading some short stories and see where you end up from there.
- If you can, it’s also exciting to read in different languages, because it brings a new appreciation of the language or you can read translations of authors from other countries.
- Here it’s also essential to support your local scene, so get some books of local authors, seeing as they will probably be highly relatable.
- If you want, you can keep a journal of what you’ve read or maybe even a storybook of your very own ideas.
Movies
- We all watch movies, and it’s never a bad idea to keep this hobby.
- You can try international movie festivals to see some more experimental titles or watch films made in your own country.
- Blockbuster titles are also sometimes excellent and are always a good point for comparison.
- If you’re a real movie buff, you can try thinking of a story and a script on your own or maybe some reviews and essays on your favorite shows and films.
Games
- Gaming is taking up the world by storm, and for a good reason – it manages to mix pretty much all types of art.
- You can try playing some triple-A titles and see how much technology has improved, or you can try some indie games and see an entirely different approach to gaming, which is usually filled with an extraordinary amount of passion.
- If that’s not your cup of tea, you can swing for some tabletop games and play with your friends and family.
- This medium is so big and fascinating that it’s pretty much impossible not to like something.
- If you’re feeling creative you can think of new games or different ways to use some tried and tested mechanics.
The Benefits Of Exploration
- By getting in contact with different types of art, you constantly find other points of view and ways of thinking, reacting, and feeling.
- Art has been a part of our world in all its forms because sometimes, to create is simply a need.
- Exploring different perceptions keeps you connected with people from all walks of life.
- Trying to make art yourself develops your creativity which is a big part of our intelligence and broadens your physical and mental abilities.
- A cultured person’s overall quality of life is often much higher than that of people who have no interest in art.
- This is because creating and exploring stimulates our brain, broadens our perspective, and makes us feel, thus instigating positive changes in pretty much every corner of our lives.
- Getting in touch with art also deepens existing interests, which helps us become more knowledgeable of topics we care about.
Final Thoughts
- Art, in general keeps life curious and inspiring.
- Whether you’re exploring the most cutting-edge and innovative artists or sticking to classics, you will undoubtedly find something you love.
- By trying to create art yourself, you are letting your creativity flow and in a way allowing yourself to be a kid again, which is never a bad feeling.
- With all the business of our lives, it’s essential to have something that helps you relax and keep you interested and motivated to explore the world.
- So why not try something new, why not see that movie, go to this gallery or listen to that musician?
- Why not even try to create something yourself?
- So go ahead then, get in touch with art!
by admin | Jan 7, 2022 | Fitness, Mind
Attracting The Right People
Your Uniqueness Is Your Strongest Quality
We all know that relationships are a massive part of our lives.
Family, friends, love interests – we deem these people so important we often identify ourselves through them.
That’s not to say this is a bad thing seeing as they have a sizable influence on each of us, both as we grow up and when we’re adults.
The people we surround ourselves with can make or break not just our daily mood, but how we view the world in its entirety, as well.
These are just some of the few reasons people are so important for each of us, but one question remains a mystery for many people – How do you attract the people who are right for you?
Let’s find out!
Get To Know Yourself First
You can’t know if something is good for you if you don’t know who you are and what you want.
To make sure you understand yourself on a level where you’ll have the correct opinion of other people, you need to know the answers to a few questions about yourself first.
- What qualities do you appreciate and look for both in other people and yourself?
- What are your ideologies concerning certain essential subjects and the world as a whole?
- What character traits do you want to improve and some that you won’t let change?
- What do you look for in relationships, and what are you bringing to the table?
Some of these may not be as easy to answer as others, but all of them are equally important to find the right people for you and maintain the relationships you build.
Start from yourself.
Reduce The Negativity Around You
This is certainly easier said than done, but that shouldn’t discourage you, really.
Whichever way we turn it, we don’t have an unlimited amount of time, and negativity in any form is at the very least a waste of it.
This, however, can be a great motivator to start enjoying life more and work on making every day better for you and the people you cherish.
An easy way to start is by questioning whether a specific action or person is making you feel okay in this exact moment and in general – by evaluating an exact situation, you have a clearer perspective on what the thing in question brings you.
From that point on, all you have to do is stay true to your feelings – this might be difficult but is worth it in the end.
Be honest about what you’re thinking and feeling, and make sure the person opposite you understands you correctly.
By removing some of the negative emotions in your life, you have more time to dedicate to your ambitions, plans, and current experiences.
Embrace Your Quirks
This is where the magic happens.
Everyone’s unique, and everyone has their own amazing individual thoughts, emotions, and traits, which is precisely why life is so colorful in the first place!
By staying true to what you love and embracing what you want to become, you are pushing to make your dreams a reality and attracting like-minded people in the process.
Think of this – you have undoubtedly found it impressive when people are genuine to themselves.
This is exactly because they’re unapologetic about who they are and what they believe in and build their very own paths in life.
Sure they might be weird from time to time, but they’re honest, and because of that, you can always trust them and their actions, which is valid for their opinion and feelings for the people they surround themselves with.
Accepting and acting the way you actually want to is a complicated process, but it’s what turns you into the person you aspire to be and that, by definition, surrounds you with the right type of people.
Start Looking!
Once you have all this down, this final step is actually surprisingly easy.
You can start interacting with people that have similar interests to you and make new relationships from there.
Hobbies are great for many reasons, and this is one of them – going dancing, enjoying a sport, or wine-tasting are all social activities and most likely filled with people just like you.
And the best part is once you’re honest about what you want, you waste no time in anything short of just right.
Sure, relationships can sometimes be difficult, and building new ones may sound a bit intimidating at first, but it only gets better once you start.
Key Message
Finding the social circle that’s right for you will undoubtedly make your life much more happy and easy while also helping you turn into who you aim to be.
By being true to yourself, you let everyone around you know who you are and what you’re looking for.
Attracting the type of people you want happens only when you’re honest, and that honesty is exactly the reason behind the magnetism itself.
With all of this being said, we believe it’s high time you go out into the world and indulge in your uniqueness and liveliness – the right people for you will be there to cheer you on!